On the one hand, it makes me sad that I am not a mom.  After all, Hallmark made this day for moms.

On the other hand, I never had a drive to be a mom and more importantly, I never thought I would be a particularly good one.  When I watched my friends with their kids, I realized it takes incredible devotion, time, money and dedication to be a great mom.  I recognized that wasn’t my strong wish.  And I didn’t think it would be fair to bring a child into this world unless I really wanted one.  That may have come from watching my mom struggle to make ends meet after a divorce wrecked the family structure.  Or it may be that like many of my friends, we were of a generation where for the first time it was not a “given” that we would have children.

So, instead of celebrating Mother’s Day for myself, I will dedicate the day to all the fabulous people in my life who either have (or had) a mom or who are moms themselves.  And for the blessings they bring to me as their friend.